Feeling like you were invited to hang out with a group simply out of pity is heartbreaking.
The phrases ‘you can/should hang out with (people who I no longer hang out with because they’re unhealthy for me)’ make me think you believe I ‘belong’ with them. Oh. I belong with negative, angry, chain smokers?
I’m glad you think those are friends I should be spending my time with instead of you.
Gah. I’m sorry. I really do understand what you were saying. It just makes me feel bad.
You have a life. You work. You go to school. You have other friends who you have more in common with. You have a boyfriend.
And not to mention our schedules are just different.
I just want to spend my time with people who are generally happy and enthusiastic about life and are heading in the same direction as I want to. Like you.
Not apathetic, passive or angry people.
Like what you’ve been weaning yourself off of.
Oh my god. Am I someone you’re trying to get away from?
I’m so sorry! I don’t want to do that! How can I change so I’m a positive influence and someone you want to spend your time with!?!